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Why now?

on September 16, 2010

Sorry gang, this is a rant. I’m kinda pissed right now and for me, to just get it all out there helps me feel better and get over it, so grab a glass of wine and hang on.

I graduated high school in 1985, which puts us at the 25 year mark this year. I was on the planning committee for our 20th reunion. We started with at least a dozen, maybe 18 people on the committee. But as with any committee, it starts out strong and ends up with only a handful of people doing all of the work, for the benefit of everyone. We worked really hard and I think it turned out well, we had a good time and a pretty good turn out. When it was over, several people were asking us about a 25. The committee chair and I both said, there wont’ be a 25, if you want one, you plan it!

Flash forward to last fall. A classmate of mine who was unable to attend either the 10 or 20, thought we really should mark the quarter century mark with a big party. She asked for assistance in the form of a committee. A few people offered, but never really came through. I offered to assist in any way that I could. Key word being assist. Yeah, right. You know where this is going, especially if you’ve ever offered to assist in some kind of function. Basically, it came down to being Jami, the chair, and me. She asked for more people to help, and a couple did, but that was pretty much it. Out of 350, 116 of whom are on our class Facebook page. So it’s not like they’re clueless and completely in the dark about everything.

My co-chair (see what I mean? assist = co-chair) essentially did everything once we had the location chosen. She contacted the dj, signed the contract, chose the colors for the china, napkins and table coverings, by the time I asked what needed to be done, she would rattle off the things she’d done and I was gobsmacked at her attention to detail. Oh, and I have to say that she was not only trying to plan our event, she was teaching 8th grade pre-algebra, planning her own wedding, and planning a move out of state. This woman knows how to multi-task and puts me to shame with her eyes closed!

We have been selling tickets online through our Paypal account we setup to make purchasing easier for everyone. A couple of weeks ago, I had a heart to heart with Jami and told her that I think we may have to call the reunion off. We had only sold 30 tickets and needed a minimum of 100 for the event to be held, otherwise we’d lose money on it and have to dip into the class account, which is pretty small. We discussed it and agreed that we should give everyone one last opportunity to buy tickets if they were planning to attend but had not yet bought. The response we got from that was, um, well, I’d call it underwhelming. And disappointing and frustrating.

The reason for my rant is Brian, a classmate (and apparently a dumbass) I’ve known since elementary school. Tomorrow is the deadline we agreed on to give our classmates until tomorrow at midnight to buy if they wanted to.  Jami forwarded a message from Brian that was basically telling her, and me, that the reason people weren’t buying tickets was because we were having it at the Hard Rock Casino, and no one wanted to support a casino. And I totally get that, believe me, our state has a serious skin condition and it’s called casino-itis.  And that he thought we shouldn’t have a ‘big fancy gala with a big price tag’. Ok, gala to me just means a really nice party. We never said it was black tie. No word of attire was ever mentioned. And, oddly enough, he conveniently forgot that it’s the same price of the tickets for our last reunion, which he attended. So I responded to his letter, and let me tell ya, I let him have it with both barrels. I hope his eyeballs blister when he reads it. He had many opportunities to voice this concern. In fact 6 months ago when we chose the venue, only one person had an issue with the casino, but their convention halls have a completely separate entrance. You can’t even hear the ‘ding ding ding’ of the machines. Honestly, if you had been invited to an event such as ours, and input was asked for and welcomed, why, oh why, would you wait 6 months to let your feelings be known? Grrr. He just really irritated me. I replied to this message that was sent to her and I hope she forwards it to him because that’s just crap if you ask me. If you have misgivings about something, or an issue with the location, why on earth would you wait to voice your opinion until it was too late to do anything about it ? I mean seriously. He started this note with ‘meaning no disrespect to the reunion committee’ which was Jami and myself. Well, you know what? It was disrespectful and hurtful.  He mentioned a tailgate before a football game where people can hang out. I told him if he wants a tailgate to plan it himself because I”m out. He’s a rat pig, but that’s a different story that I think I”ll keep to myself.

Thanks for letting me rant. I feel better now. I think I deserve a glass of wine now. Ha ha. And I didn’t think this was going to be very long! Guess I was on a roll.

10 responses to “Why now?

  1. Rant away. Better to let it out than give it in!
    I was wondering what was the big deal of the casino until I read farther. Yeah it is a shame that he and the others I am sure he spoken to felt this way. I guess he was the speaker for others who did not have the nerve to speak up. It is sad though that they did not mention it atleast the first month to give both Jami and you time to look around or even early suggestion.
    It kinda of suck that the reunion will not take place for the people who really want to go. Perhaps for the people who want to go you and Jami can make a bowling party, or a family events with them. This way not only do you get to see old classmate but meet their family! This way no one end up on the sour end and everyone have a great time. It is still a party in a different form!

    • Yeah, I’m sure he’s not the only one who thinks that, but to wait til such a late time, in my mind, was kind of pointless, know what I mean? It’s too late to do anything about it and all it did was hurt my feelings. Another of our classmates has spoken up, desperate to have something and she’s asking what’s the backup plan. I told her there is none, and if she wants to plan something to go for it. I’m just kind of burned out on the whole thing right now and don’t give a flip! Oh well, you know what they say, shit happens, right?

  2. I hate it I cant edit this, lol. Better to let it out than keep it in…not give it in. sorry

  3. I know what you mean and sorry that your feelings were hurt:(
    Just some stuff in life there is no control over. I don’t that classmate who want to know plan B will do anything. That classmate sounds like me. I am eager to help out but won’t or can’t plan something so big as gathering a large amount of people together by myself. Plus when others help it is a motivation when others do not it feel pointless. I am sure you know this feeling.

    This is the way I think about it. If you really want to catch up in person with old classmate take a breather or a day or two and come back with Superwomen (Jami:), the eager classmate, and yourself and put yall brain together. If you have know passion and could careless to see other classmate or to put lightly the last reunion was good enough for you. Then just chill and think about what you will do this weekend with your family:)

    • Thanks. I’ll get over it. He’s just a jerk. Who knows what will happen? My crystal ball is in the shop! Anyway, it’s a wonderful day, we’ll have a fantastic weekend. My daughter’s first soccer game is tomorrow. She’s 7 and has never played before so this will be fun!

  4. I know your daughter is excited as you are. Don’t forget your camera:) Sports shots are actually the best photos in my opinion. The facial expressing took at the very moments, the anticipation of winning, and the body language of losing. Love sport photos. You and your family have a great weekend!

  5. Hi Domestic…long time no read. I hope all is fine. Do you have a update on the reunion? Did anyone plan something else?

    • Hello, dahling! I know, i’ve got several posts I need to do, a bunch of really yummy recipes, but life is at break-neck speed right now and I’ve been running with my hair on fire and had no time to post them. I will have some time next week.

      About our reunion, no, nothing came out of it. We had to cancel and that was it. I did respond to the jerk via my friend, who forwarded the email to him. Funny thing, I never heard anything back from him. I didn’t hold anything back in that note and there was no doubt as to my feelings about him in it. Oh well, that’s totally fine, i didn’t really think I’d hear anything from him. Good riddance, right? have a great weekend! I’ll get my recipes up next week and take a look at yours too!

  6. Serve him right. He won’t talk about for the class any more, lol.
    I hope someone had a bucket of water/fire extinguisher available:)
    Just wanted to make sure all is well with you. When your ready I am ready. Enjoy your weekend as well!

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